Category: Getting to Know You
So, are you? And, are you shyer if you talk to people face to face than via email or on here? Because so am I. I could talk a lot on here, but if I saw you the first time, I would be very shy at first. Whenever I meet people for the first time, I am very shy and hardly say anything, but I can get talkative soon then.
it depends on the person but usually I'm not even close to shy lol poeple get sick of me fast just like online
Hi Inessle,
I don't even know the meaning of the word shy, lol. Talking is all the same to me, whether it's on here or in person. There seems a bit of a contradiction about people who are shy till they get to know you. How do you get to know someone if you don't talk to them? and vice versa? Of course just talking to people doesn't necessarily mean you really know them, but you get a sense or impression of that person, but no, I'm not the least bit shy, but if I'm in a new environment, especially a new chat site, new chat rooms, I'm a bit wary until I'm sure of the kind of environment I'm in, and feel like I have to wait till someone speaks to me before I talk to them.
wonderwoman
same here N1. People usually get sick of me after a while. lol
same here N1. People usually get sick of me after a while. lol
same here N1. People usually get sick of me after a while. lol
No, I'm not shy.
I am usually outgoing confident and very curious though if if the meeting is romantic, then I'm as nervous as anyone smile..
The goth look does tend to cause some to back off, but their curiosity inevitably over-rides their unease and they invariably want to know how!? and why ,so I just smile and tell ....
Invariably I'm not shy about meeting new people. I do think however that the internet does give some people confidence they might not necessarily have otherwise. It's often a lot easier to write something down than it is to say it, and I know a lot of people who have said that they don't chat nearly as openly to someone they've just met in person, as they might do on a web site such as this one.
Well it depends with me. When I meet German people, I'm less shy somehow than when I meet people who don't speak German. The reason for this is probably that I'm trying too hard not to make any mistakes during speaking another language. When I know people better, when I feel more confortable, I'm not scared of making mistakes anymore. I hope that makes sence now.
yeh makes perfect sense
Ah, thanks. Well, I think if I spoke to a Spanish person I wouldn'T even be able to say anything, while in English it's getting much better.
im shy for the first 5 minutes, then ill talk. i guess it kinda depends on the person too though.
yeah, I am shy in person, no doubt. I can bearly start conversations with people in person and have to literally force myself to do so. It's quite difficult for me. Online, it's different, and I can talk to anyone. Also when I am conversing in another language I find it much easier to tlak to people than in english. I would suppose it's because...hmm, not sure.
Yeah, I agree with everyone who is shy in person but now online. When I first became a zone member, I was like literally afraid of everyone, ut now I'm ubertalkitive, if you havne't noticed. When I'm in person, though, I think it takes me a little longer. How? How do you just think something and say it? If I had that skill, I would probably be a lot better off if you get my meaning.
i'm usually shy it depends on the person i meet. if he/she decides to open a conversation, then i'll just go with the flow. But most of the time i'm shy. haha My friends tell me, i'm not shy
anyway you decide. talk to ya later, have fun
i'm usually shy it depends on the person i meet. if he/she decides to open a conversation, then i'll just go with the flow. But most of the time i'm shy. haha My friends tell me, i'm not shy
anyway you decide. talk to ya later, have fun
Hm, interesting. I really think, if I will come on ventrillo (which I'll be able to do now that I have a headset with a microphone) I'll be shy at first.
i am usually out going, not shy, although when it comes to meeting someone i tend to be a bit shy for maybe the first fifteen minutes or so, you know, until i figure out what your mood is, or what ever, if someone is shy around me, i tend to be as much so, because i am not sure what they are thinking. on the phone, or computer, no not at all in person, it depends on how close we are.
shane
Yay. I think a little shyness is not bad at all, in the oposite.
hmm. I'm kind of shy meeting people in person, and sometimes online, too. and with voice chat, if I chat with people I've chated with on the zone, I'll tend to be shy, too.
Alison, same here. If I come on ventrillo one day, you will have to start a conversation with me, because I am shy.
I wouldnt like to appear unkind, but u should respect what the single board is done for: if it's abou introducin yourself, y do u post a question like that just here?
Try to be more precise, I hate when things r posted in the wrong board. There wouldnt be different boards and categories if it didnt matter.
Um, I did not want to post that on the singles board, because shyness isa character and you should get to know people here, so, why not letting them know that you are shy on here? And, if it would be wrong, I think the community leaders would have removed it ages ago already.
Well... let's see. I get nervous when I know new people were coming my way. But the more I get to know them, the more I'll talk and loosen up.
Lil Kimmie, that's exactly how I feel.
I am not very shy usually but I am usually better at one on one rather than large groups. if it's a small group I am ok. but I don't tend to like the spot light alot. strangely, when I played drums and on stage that never bothered me any but public speaking is really hard for me!
I am shy when I first meet people.
I'm not shy when I meet new people, I an talk to anyone about anything provided it isn't really to do with me. I will know your life story with in an hour, but if you ask me mine that's when I get scared hehe
I am very shy when I first meet someone, I mean I don't mind talking to people in a crowded place, or singing to a big crowd of people or anything like that, but there is just something scary about talking to that person you meet on a 1on1 basis. I get pretty nervous an shy about it anyway.
Shy? In face to face settings, yes. At least for the first few minutes then I warm up to them quite easily. On the Internet I'm not because I can think about what I say and know that I'll probably never meet the person ever so who cares?
Yeah, I agree with the internet thing, I am not shy at all there either.
Depends on the person and personality of the person.
Troy
I think I'm extremely shy... on here I can't talk to someone if they don't talk to me first, even after I know them. makes me feel nervous just to think of it... when I meet someone in person for the first time I'm nervous as hell and so for the second time, the third, and probably the next few years lol. and well maybe this is too much but I can't even make phone calls to my friends I know since years, I feel real nervous when I do that too.
I think I'm more open and able to express myself easier thru typing/writing. When speaking, I have to think what I want to say and how to say it, but when writing, that comes easier for me. Although I don't mind it, it's usually hard for me to keep a conversation going when on the phone or voice chatting, and this usually goes for when I meet someone in person also. But if the person seems friendly and/or is more outgoing, it makes it more comfortable for me to speak with them.
Well, I'm an introvert by nature, so I am awkward about just starting conversations with random strangers. If somebody approaches me and wants to talk, I might warm up to them depending on the individual and waht they want to talk about. Yeah, I like to meet new people but I find I get pickier and pickier as I grow older. LOL! One thing, for example, I find a bit disconcerting on here is when some total stranger will want to Quicknote me apparently just to say Hi. I'm not sure how to act in such situations, save for saying Hi back, but I'm not sure if htey want to have a conversation or not. Usually I come on here to play around in the boards but not to chat unless it's somebody I know from elsewhere that I know already.
I'm a bit shy when it comes to meeting and talking with new people, and I it extremely hard to come out and start talking about things with someone when I don't know anything about them or or I'm afraid they going to be rude and tell me to fuck off or just ignore me. I normally wait for them to come to me to start a conversation. Which is why til this day I never private quicknote anyone unless I know that person.
Yeah, same here, MK. I totally understand.
I'm new-ish here and I do feel shy - I have been told SO many times how bad the "net" can be!! BUT... I like it here so - think things will be ok LOL
Well Yellowcat it is great here. I mean there is some drama but drama is everywhere, so ... yeah. Are oyu eve nshy when it comes to typling? Just ... plain typing, chatting via the keyboard?
Yup - even with typing... worry about what to say how much to say, will it be understood as I want it to be , will it be bad manners... LOL - sure I will get better tho !!
I love meeting new people.
Yeah so do I, Allie, but i can also understand Yelowcat's point. That is what I mean: I am not sure if people understand me, either. Because English is not my first language, I am always a bit worried if people can understand how I mean things.
Hi. I'm sort of the same as some of you who've posted on here. I've always been a shy person really, since I learnt to talk which took quite a few years due to my condition which made me visually impaired in the first place. It basically gave me a cleft palette which re-arranged my face and nearly killed me when I was born, pushed my teeth out of line, left me without a top lip and minus one eye, moderate hearing loss in my right ear for which I'm just about to get a new hearing aid and as a result, the right side of my face is slightly smaller than the left side, so when I'm in public, I'm really concious of how i should look and how I don't look. When I started secondary school half my year six group regarded it and worst of all, me, as an infectious disease because I've worn around five different braces to straighten my teeth and get them looking like other people's teeth and that left me with a speech impediment or lisp which I've still got now and people used to imitate if I even tried to speak to them or start a conversation with them, so I had no choice but to wait for someone else to start a conversation with me if they wanted to, but I realise now I have to forget what happened back then, however difficult it is for me to start a conversation and just beat the shyness. I actually make myself say hellow to someone I've never met or if I'm introduced to someone in town, at a party, at a friend's house or wherever, or how the hell do I or anyone else who reads this post, think we're going to get through life? You have to do it, you need to do it and you need to do it sooner rather than later.